Last year, I created a mantra for each month and I want to keep the inspiration coming!
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Our Family Agreements
Evan and I have always been intentional about having our kids involved with matters that affect the whole family. We decided to write a family agreement. I’m sure this will be constantly changing and evolving throughout the years.
The “agreement” is also intentional. It is important that it is a collaboration of ideas and not just a set of rules. Rules can feel imposed and there is usually a punishment involved to maintain power or order. It can push us towards obedience rather than encouraging internal motivation.
My kids follow our agreements (let’s be real, not all of the time!) because they helped create them, it isn’t fear based. We don’t use punishments if an agreement is broken. We guide our children in mending the conflict, cleaning the mess, repairing a tangle, etc. They are taking responsibility for their actions without shame.
Everyone got a say in writing a part of the agreement. We ended up writing way too many and picked out the ones that we felt were the most important for this season. We even let them write a silly one at the end (“kiss the apple every time you go to school”). When I read off out agreements, every so often, they burst into laughter at the silly one!
May creating your own family agreements bring you all closer together! Enjoy!